With everything that’s going on in life, it’s easy to sometimes become obsessed with what’s not yet working out in your life and leadership. So much so that it may completely wipe out all that is actually already working out.
This misplaced perception of the mind, that nothing’s working out, is not only an uncomfortable path to enter, it’s also a destructive deviation from the truth.
For the truth is that there always is something that is already working out for you, no matter how bad it momentarily looks or sounds or feels. Most of the time there are more things that do work out than there are those that don’t.
You just don’t see them in that moment as you’re led by the misplaced perceptions of your mind.
How do you know that that’s what’s happening?
First of all, your mind’s running a riot. It’s in chaos and everything feels immensely uncomfortable. Which usually leads you to believe that everything is in complete chaos and that nothing’s working out.
Which of course isn’t ever true, but it can certainly feel like it. That’s a natural reaction of a mind led by fear, not faith.
Second, you’re constantly trying to analyse it out and think it out in your mind. There’s a dense energy of needing to figure it all out.Asap.
But no solution feels fully aligned, rather there’s an element of chaos and uncomfortableness in all of them. Some may seem to be satisfying to some extent, usually pleasing the misplaced mind, or ego, but come with some degree of uncertainty or uneasiness that you can’t quite put your finger on.
If you’re in a situation like this, you can be sure of one thing. You’ve just missed the actual point and are head over heels going in the wrong direction. And if you continue that way, soon everything escalates out of proportion. I mean everything.
This is the moment when your mind creates the illusion of a nightmare. One that feels all-encompassing and all too real.
Yet it’s not.
Just pause.
Take a breath and observe.
Do not launch into action before you’ve located the inner peace and clarity within.
Yes, there most likely is a situation that needs your immediate attention. Usually one requiring you to get comfortable with doing the uncomfortable – something you’d rather avoid.
But you never see that when you’re led by fear. Fear deceives you to believe that there’s a problem outside of you that you need to fix as soon as possible by blaming someone or something else. But there never is.
My experience, with myself and from observing my clients for over a decade, is that fear is the one that makes you deviate from the original, true path. The one that makes you launch into hasty decisions that prove to be unbeneficial in the long term. Even though they feel like they’re justified in the short term.
So, pause.
Take a moment to just breathe and observe.
Especially your own thought patterns that come up in relation to the ongoing situation.
Can you be sure your thoughts are true?
Life, and Byron Katie, shoutout to her amazing work, has taught me to question my thoughts in any and every situation.
For when I don’t question my thoughts, and thus my perceptions of what’s going on, it’s easy to end up creating problems where there actually are none.
This is why I often ask my clients, when they come to me with a problem, that
Is this really a problem?
Is it?
Or is the problem actually something else?
Usually it is.
But if you don’t take the time to pause, breathe and observe, you miss it. And follow the fear. Down a rabbit hole. Where everything feels like a never ending struggle.
So, if what you’ve thought to be the problem until now, isn’t the actual problem in reality, then what is?
What is it that you’ve missed?
In your own being and action?
What is it that you haven’t yet sensed or seen?
Once you do sense and see it, you know what to do.
If you’d like support in the process, I’m here to help you. Just reach out.
With my all,
Paula
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