Oh my, how I would not like to be writing this…
Why? Because last week I stumbled upon a block that I’d so much rather avoided altogether.
Do you ever get to a point where you know you’re procrastinating with something, knowing that it’s a lost battle, but still resisting to go on with it?
I can hear in my head how some of you are loudly saying ‘Heck yeah!’
That is one of the most uncomfortable feelings I know. And I don’t understand how I’m face-to-face with it every so often. Now, that’s irony. I do understand how and why. The mystery still is why I keep on resisting, even though I know I eventually go through it and feel relieved afterwards.
I don’t know how to make such a mental note to myself that I’d remember next time around to just go through it right away.
This clearly is one of the areas where I need to keep asking myself how good am I willing to let life get.
What helped me, once again, to keep on going when I would have so much rather given up, and had procrastinated for quite some time, was connecting with the why. Why am I doing what I’m doing?
It’s amazing how such a simple question can clarify so many things.
What is your why?
Why are you doing what you’re doing?
In moments like these, I remind myself of my why many times a day. It helps me keep grounded in the present moment and stops me from drowning in my fearful thoughts. It allows me to keep on taking action on the vision I have, even though I have absolutely no idea whether it’ll be successful or not.
But I sure am going to try and make the most of the journey. Are you with me?
And the stumbling block I encountered.
The fear of visibility. Coupled with the disease to please.
My stomach is turning upside down just writing this. And I thought that I’m all past both of those. Ha!
I know they’re going to be my companions for the rest of my life, and that I get to work on and with them regularly. But obviously I had had some hope to be done with them. Cause as they appeared, I felt the momentarily urge to withdraw and give up.
Another thing I’ve learned to do when feeling stuck is to seek for clarity.
For example, this time it meant that as I’m about to step on a new level with my business, I finally need to take charge of my company’s visibility on social media, too. As I ease the fear of visibility and disease to please by connecting with my why, to take steps forward with the new plans, I also need to get clear on what is it that I’m supposed to do.
Knowing your why isn’t going to take you anywhere if it’s not backed up with aligned action. And to be able to take aligned action we need to have an idea of what to do.
With social media it easy to say that one needs to start posting regularly. Simple as that.
But with fear kicking in, it all gets a bit fuzzy and feels a bit overwhelming.
So, what I did, I
- looked for living proof of people doing it consistently and with success to convince myself that it’s possible. I actually received an email, out of the blue, from someone doing it multiple seven figures successfully. Divine timing, I say. And I got the message, loud and clear. If she did it, I have hope.
- asked myself questions of how I’d like to be doing it? What would be the topics I’d like to post about? What types of content would serve my followers best? And so on. Often times just stating the questions that come into your mind out loud, even if it’s just to yourself, helps you get more clarity. I wrote down ideas of topics, made a preliminary plan of how I’m going to execute and started to prepare.
- junked the needed actions into smaller tasks. Saying that one just needs to start posting feels easy and simple. But before you get to that, you need to get clear on what is the purpose, what are the topics, how often, and in what platforms, for example. Junk it into small steps and take one step at a time.
I now have what I need to start, not perfectly, but to get going.
As they say, better done than perfect!
Plus, I keep telling myself that, back to work, my love – this is a wonderful opportunity for healing and we’re going to take it. We’re going to see what a wonderful lesson we have here to learn. And remember, that the process of learning feels sometimes uncomfortable, yet before long we get to see the collateral beauty of it all.