There are three things I’d like to discuss with you concerning the many questions I’ve received about why do we stop ourselves from going forward with our dreams.
Of course, there can be a plethora of reasons why we end up procrastinating, a.k.a. not doing it. But there also are three absolutely unnecessary reasons that might me hindering us. We’ll tackle these three one by one during the upcoming weeks.
This week we’ll talk about the belief of ‘too good to be true’.
So many ideas have vanished and not seen the daylight, because we’ve discarded them as ‘too good to be true’. In other words, as fantasy. After all, we’ve been told that fantasies do not turn into reality.
But are those quick and sudden images that flash through your mind when you least expect really fantasies? Or are they, in fact, dreams with real potential? What would happen if they’d become true?
Would it be too good to be true? According to who? Who says so? Really? Or would you just need to learn to let more good into your life?
Either way, I’ve seen some pretty awesome, magical really, events happen in my clients’ lives, when they’ve gotten over this idea of something being too good to be true.
And I’d like to challenge you to try it, too.
If we think that something is too good to be true, what are the odds that you will ever even give it a proper go? My guess is that the odds are painstakingly small.
Well how to go about it then?
What we most need in this situation is proof. References of other people who’ve done what we’d like to do, or something similar. If we believe our dream is out of reach, it’s unlikely we do anything about it. But if we know that it actually is possible, we get curious. And curiosity is forward moving energy.
If something feels too good to be true at the moment, take some time to search for reference that it actually is possible. Find a person who has already done it.
Ask around in your network. In your social media channels. Use google.
The references work best when they are so-called first hand references and you get to be in contact with that person in some way. TG for social media, in this case, as it makes it so much easier to contact pretty much anyone these days.
Reach out. Ask questions. Let them know you’re inspired by them.
If direct contact is not possible, don’t worry. Second hand references help, too. Surf the net. Read about them, listen to stories and podcasts you can find. Immerse yourself in the sense of possibility by what someone else has already done.
And above all, get yourself curious about what if you’d be able to handle that much goodness in your life!
Talking about goodness, there’s another thing I’d like you to notice.
About six or seven years ago I attended this lecture of a famous Finnish psychology in my home city. The only thing I can recall from it was her reference to the safety belts in our lives. She showed us a TV commercial of a foreign insurance company about the importance of safety belts.
When in the commercial it was about wearing the actual safety belt while in car, she made it into an anecdote about safety belts in our lives. That really stuck with me and I had to dig deep and work hard with myself to identify the real safety belts in my own life.
And you know what?
I came to realize that I have several different safety belts for several different occasions. Only a less than a handful of those people I’d before considered my absolute safety belts were actually the ones I could turn to in any situation. While others were safety belts for some things, but then not at all in regards to other things.
The hardest wasn’t to find safety belts that stood by you even when things got tough. The hardest was to identify those who stood by you even when something really good happened.
I’m sharing this with you in case you need to notice the real safety belts in your life, so that you don’t keep going to the ‘wrong’ people for ‘wrong’ things. Especially when it comes to ideas that may at first feel like too good to be true.
That’s also how I constantly ended up disappointing myself earlier. My own fault, as I now know. But I’ve changed it around. And so can you.